I Became A Widow At 25—Here’s What I Want People To Know

“After nine short, perfect months of marriage, Ethan was gone.”

I Became A Widow At 25—Here’s What I Want People To Know

I Became A Widow At 25—Here’s What I Want People To Know

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  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:17

    Scott Walker

    I'm currently going through this. She expressed my emotions almost verbatim. As of yet, I haven't found the will to go on like she has. I suppose it's yet to come. God bless her!
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:23

    Sarai Perez

    Part of grief means losing the dreams you had, but life can be beautiful post-loss. You just have to search for the glimmer of light in each day and make that your beacon of hope. That is what will get you through the future days and years to come. - beautiful words, a heartfelt story, prayers to her 🙏🙏
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:30

    Paige Paul

    What I learned from becoming a widow at 29: 1. Grief takes many different forms 2. Everyone grieves at their own pace 3. NO ONE can tell you when to stop grieving, and you should never listen to the people who tell you (and they WILL tell you) to get over it/move on/stop being sad, whatever. 4. In order to keep your sanity, you must cut out anything that disturbs your peace. Friends, family members, whatever it is. If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive. 5. You never get over it. You just learn to live with it.
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:37

    Genevieve Marie Wilson

    Didn't even get married, had one perfect year with my fiancee after a failed marriage in my late 20's, not a widow still missing him, the man of my dreams more than words can express, don't have the strength to go on like this woman. Maybe one day.
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:44

    Kristina Campanizzi

    Stephanie Shaffer O'Donnell... I wasn't sure I wanted to share this but I thought you needed to know that you are never alone and that just like this young girl, we all love you so much.
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:44

    Stephanie Null

    This is so spot on😞 I lost my husband when I was 20 and the feelings of something bad happening is all to real and unexplainable. So sorry for your loss
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 01:52

    Jenny Mota Carlson

    As our father in Heaven knows every single person before they are born, God knew even as you said you're 2 lives we're meant to be together, even for a short time but the kind of LOVE you both had daily and still today is a rare love ❤️ because most people never have a chance to live one day with a blessed love because there is so much Evil today and the word Love is Lost in today's time. I'm truly sorry for your loss, but I know as you said, God had/ has a plan and you both are chosen for his will. We as Gods people don't know why he took Ethan home so soon, but I know it's was for His glory and purpose. Gods Will for you is for you to know that his love for you is as strong as it was before you were even born and the same today. I can say from my own experiences that Gods Love, Mercy, and Grace will be revealed in his time For you. I don't have answers as to why but I know Gods never ending love will always be there for us and get us through hard times day by day. I pray for your strength and wisdom in this hard time, but I also see a beautiful young women whom is carrying on for Ethan and Gods will and his promise of blessings to come. Someday I know I will meet yourself and Ethan in heaven and we will walk and talk throughout Gods kingdom so that our eyes will be fully open to ALL of Gods reasons that he sometimes does or allows things to happen when we don't always understand. May you walk in Gods light and let him show you the future of your path. You are truly my sister in Christ Jesus! Thank you for sharing your story and the love you give to your animals is such a beautiful blessing. You are and will continue to grow as one of the finest and Bests veterinary there is! God Bless you and your family! J.C
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 02:07

    Linda Cersosimo Powell

    I’m not a young widow , But at 50 I lost my husband , best friend my everything , married 20 years was together 24 years , it’s as though half of me is gone .... February 2018 will be three years and I still cry every day ... Prayers for all who has lost someone 🙏🙏
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 02:22

    Lauren Salvador

    I lost my husband when I was 23 yrs old. We had been married for 3 weeks and I didn't know how to cope with it. You will never get over the loss but I can say the pain and sadness lessens over time. I was pregnant at the time and thankfully I have my daughter and she helped me to stay strong. It's a terrible club to be a part of Know that you are a strong woman and I have faith that you will grow stronger as the days go on. I'm truly sorry for your pain loss.
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 02:35

    Alicia Chavez

    Thank you for sharing this article. I have lost the love of my life as well and sometimes you think you are the only person dealing with a situation like this at such a young age. This will give us hope to push forward and not give up! I know my Andrew wouldn't want me to give up and be unhappy! I always say I'm lucky to have had him in my life as long as I did and every girl dreams of the type of love he gave me and for that I'm thankful ❤
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 02:49

    Cindy Besio

    Very sad, but well written. Everyone grieves in their own way and it's so very true that we should not judge how someone grieves or even how long they grieve. Grief never truly goes away...we just learn how to deal with the grief in different ways as time goes on.......
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 03:03

    Kanika Riley

    All I can say is "wow!" She captured all of the emotions a widow endures so beautifully. Love of mine went home to be with Jesus suddenly on January 23, 2013. I was 38 and our girls were 3 years old and 14 months. We are coming up on 5 years now and I still mourn the woman I was with him and our loving, supportive marriage. My faith was rocked to the core. Two things I've clung to: our girls and Jesus. Without them I would've made it this far. Thank you so much for sharing. It gave me great comfort.
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 03:04

    Lise Turpin

    Yup..me too. Window at 26. But found love again 3 years later. The heart heals. The memories keeps you in check and never let you take something for granted.💔
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 03:29

    Zandra Hughes

    I lost my first husband when I was 28 - our daughter was 3 at the time. I remarried right before my 40th birthday and now I'm 50. It was the most difficult time of my life ... depression and PTSD are no joke! The hurt heals with time, but I do think of him often and see him so much in our (now) 25 year old daughter. Prayers to all of you who have lost a loved one, especially a spouse. xx
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 03:34

    Barb Cook Austin Rawlings

    I was 27 when my husband died, a week before our 1st anniversary and on my mom’s birthday. This is so spot on how I felt. I wanted to die too. Everyone said I would meet someone and move on. I didn’t believe them nor did I really want to. We had just began talking about having a baby. It was so hard to find the will to move on. But he has now been gone 24 years and I did move on. I met a wonderful guy. We have been together 21 years, have two beautiful children and 1 grandson. But I can honestly say that in all of these years I still miss and think about him almost everyday. Sometimes still with tears but many times with a smile. Prayers to all that have lost someone.
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 03:34

    Susan Branscombe

    I can relate to your story I was married at 18 and still in school I was married one sat and my husband and I were in a car accident the next Sat he was killed and I survived I carried the baby the full term and he was born but I never got to bring him home he was born with health problems his insides were o. The out side sent him to the IWK hospital in Halifax NS nothing could be done I graduated while he was in the hospital and a month later he passed away that has been 45 years ago and I never really got over it but I still think of them both yet and just wondering what my life would of been like I guess I'll never know
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 04:57

    Genei McIntyre

    I was 22 when I lost my husband of 3 years, our son was 2 at the time.... Its been almost 2 years now... I still cry myself to sleep at night, I still send him messages over Facebook, whether its because im thinking of him, something reminded me of him, or its wishing him a happy birthday or fathers day..... it hasn't gotten easier for me, I doubt it ever will, but I can smile more at his photos, rather than cry, I can laugh at our good times that we had, watch the videos and enjoy hearing his voice again. It just takes time I suppose
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 05:03

    Jacki Hay McKie

    I lost mine 3 days after my 21st and 4 days before his 25th - our son was 14 months old. We have just passed the 28th Anniversary. You survive but you never forget. 😥
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 05:55

    Ele Mamayek

    “The thing I would tell anyone who's dealing with someone who's grieving is not to judge them for the ways in which they cope with their loss” Such wonderful advice. My husband passed away when I was 31. I had a 3 year old and 2 month old baby. Everyone had something to say about what I should do next and how I should deal with the pain. I lost most of my friends at the time because I didn’t behave how they thought a grieving widow should behave. I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. ❤️
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 16:38

    Cindy Favella Castilleja

    Thank you for sharing. I was a young widow too and it was hard to cope on some days / months after he died, but the family & friends were there to steer me through it. It's been 6 years and I found love again. It wasn't an easy journey, but he asked me the week before he died if he ever did die to promise him I'd find love again and I have
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 22:03

    Cheri Kappenman

    I lost my first husband when I was 22 and my baby was 10 months old. It was an awful time but met my now husband and we've been married for 48 years and have had 3 children together and he adopted my first child. You never forget, but life does get better
  • Posted: September 28, 2017 23:58

    Joy Samnadda

    I became a widow at 52 two years ago. Life will never be the same without my husband but with the help of my good friend (who was there for me and still is )and God I got the strength to carry on. Continue to pray and you will find the strength to move on even if it is with a heavy heart. I thank God everday for giving me a good husband. My heart and prayers go out to all of those who have lost.❤❤
  • Posted: September 29, 2017 01:05

    Elaine O'Dell

    I was 24 when I lost my first husband. It was so hard trying to help 3 kids understand why dad wasn't coming home. Fast forward 20 years and I lost my second husband. I have gone through this twice and you survive but you are scarred and forever changed. I understand when you say you miss the old you.
  • Posted: September 29, 2017 02:41

    Cassie Pink

    Candice Rode, I bawled at the part when her best friend slept with her that night. Brings me back to when you slept next to me for a week after Dave's accident.❤
  • Posted: September 29, 2017 05:34

    Carol Seiler Kalar

    I became a widow at age 33, our son was only 9, even though he has been gone for many years, I never remarried because he was the love of my life. I know I will be with him again.